I spent several days last week completing an online course with the Alzheimer's Association about the CARES approach to caregiving.  While I did not acquire a lot of new information, I did see videos showing beautiful examples of how to connect as a caregiver.

One of the best ways we can connect with our loved ones who have Alzheimer's is to remember that they live in their own reality.  We cannot change that reality.  We should not attempt to argue.  We must accept it and go with it.  It is frustrating for us when we live in a different reality and so want them in it with us.  Our sacrifice of love is to forgo that desire and become a part of their world.

My own mother now lives in her past.  I think she remembers sisters and parents more than her children and grandchildren.  When she asks about where her mother is I respond with an answer that could have explained where she might have been when my mother lived at home.  Often I tell her she is cooking, doing laundry, visiting a neighbor and babysitting for one of her daughters.

A gift I can give my mother is to share family history and stories with her caregivers at the nursing home.  By providing them with information, they can find ways to comfort Mom when she is distressed. 

Today I pray that God opens your eyes to better ways to connect with your love one.  Those moments help ease the pain of saying goodbye.